Climb from the Bottom

Climb from the bottom

Have got some stuff you need to face up to but keep putting it off.

Are you feeling like a coach potato in some areas of your life but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is.

Love to live life to the full but you’re being held back?

Read on because this concept has really got me thinking and has helped me face up to a few things.

Have you ever watched documentaries that show aerial views of mountains? It’s absolutely incredible, breath taking and overwhelming even.

I wonder if this is how you see your ‘stuff’. So enormous that its breath taking and overwhelming. Maybe it’s so overwhelming that you daren’t look at it fully.

The thought of leaving a job behind that you’ve been in for years, being comfortable, known, knowing what you’re doing. You’re not satisfied but the thought of change overwhelms you.

You daren’t even grasp an aerial view of what it could be like to change jobs.

You know you could sort your finances out but that would involve admitting how much you spend and how much debt you are in. You can’t possibly face it. So you continue to spend and continue to deny there’s a problem.

But the aerial view is incredible. Why would you not allow yourself such pleasure?

The clients I work with are awesome. They come and tell me they are frustrated and want to be more fulfilled. What a great start to admit that something is not quite right. Sometimes they know they have a mountain, other times we work it out together. I help them see the aerial view and what life could be like.

They would tell you they feel all sorts of feelings at this point; overwhelmed, afraid, excited, intimidated, even more frustrated, intrigued, ok, ready…

Then we set some goals. They have worked out what to do, not all the steps are worked out, they might not have even put their shoes on to start but they know.

These people are at the foot of the mountain.

You need to get to the foot of the mountain.

The view is different. You can’t climb a mountain from the aerial view.

You climb from the bottom.

Get to the bottom. Whatever it takes get to the bottom.

I am not a mountain climber in the real sense but I have climbed Snowden when I was 10. I thought it would be like story books standing at the bottom and looking straight up and seeing the peak or maybe a few clouds. The reality on this day was that I saw a road, a rather steep road but a road, not a mountain.

When you get to the bottom

(and I’m not underestimating how hard that can be, it takes some of my clients a good few sessions to work what the mountain is never mind how to get to the bottom)

You won’t look up and see an overwhelming distance, you’ll just see a road you know you need to take.

Don’t put up with these frustrations because you fear the mountain. When you get to the bottom the journey up is an adventure.

When you work with me I am your support act, I prepare you, I walk with you and I take a break with you. I don’t tell you which way to go or how fast to go.

The free Coaching Call that I offer to all new clients is a great way to see if you’d like me on that journey with you.

Email me at contact@nicolahughes.co.uk and we’ll arrange the best time for your FREE coaching call.

Whatever it is we can sort it.

Looking forward to hearing from you

Love Nicola

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Nailed It

Nailed It.

Nailed it

Have you seen those funny photos of people’s creations where they’ve tried to copy something from Pinterest but failed on a major level? The text underneath reads,

“Nailed It”

They make me laugh so much.

Mainly because I have been in that place.

I made Play Doh the other day, the example was glossy and brightly coloured. I thought how hard can this be? Clearly very! It looked awful and I couldn’t get the colour to run through it.

I also made some banana muffins and they looked no-where near as full and plump as the ones in the picture.

I’m now very wary.

I really want to draw on mugs with sharpie pens, the pictures look great. However, I’ve read a few feedback posts that say it doesn’t work and fades after one wash.

Quite frankly I’m not wasting my time on something that’s not going to work.

I wonder if that’s how you feel about Life Coaching with me, or with anyone?

There’s lots of people out there making claims to change your life, making you fab offers and sending you lots of free stuff. It can be really confusing.

You usually then discover they want a tiny fortune off you.

It’s really hard to know whether you’ll get what’s so beautifully portrayed in the picture.

When you work with a life coach or counsellor or mentor you are giving a little of yourself to someone for a time. It’s personal, you don’t want to do that with just anyone.

So why should you choose me?

I am Nicola Hughes before I am anyone else. Born in the North West of England. I am a wife and a Mum to two little pickles who are 1 and 3. I work part time and I run my own business.

Sometimes I feel full of life and enjoy seeing my pickles do the amazing things they do. On other days (which is the majority) I struggle with all the things you do:

Am I a good enough parent?

Why are they doing my head in?

How will I get all of this done?

Who am I?

Work with me because I am a real person, I’m living the everyday struggles of life. Yet I’ve painted a picture for myself and I’m making it happen.

I can help you because I have been helped

I can help you because I am qualified and skilled

I can help you because I am real

I know you don’t want to waste your time (or money) on something that isn’t going to work.

I know you are concerned whether you will ‘Nail It’ or not.

The difference is you get to paint the picture, not me!

I support you to paint your picture

Then..

I watch you nail it!

If something in here resonates with you, if you are a little intrigued then contact me.

I offer everyone a FREE introductory session.

This is so you can hear my voice, see if you like working with me, like my style and ask any questions.

There is no obligation. I promise that.

Email me at contact@nicolahughes.co.uk and we’ll set up a time that’s convenient.

Please share this with your lovely friends as they might be interested in painting a different life for themselves.

Then join me at www.facebook.com/nicolahughescoaching so you can keep up with what’s going on and be inspired.

Looking forward to hearing from you

Nicola x x

My Deepest Fear Is…

My Deepest Fear Revealed

My deepest fear is..

Are you someone that does things on time or leaves them to the last minute?

When you got homework as a child did you do it on the way home or on the way to class the following week?

Will you do an all-nighter before a deadline or are you tucked up in bed feeling satisfied and accomplished?

I get it done. I am a doer. It was done last week.

I frequently say, “There are no flies on me.”

I’m sure if we read some psychology reports we would discover the reason behind those of us that get things done now and those of us that leave it to the last minute. I’m sure we are both as equally messed up.

I have spent the last few weeks glued to my lap top (my new lap top by the way for my new business!) Any blog, any ideas get written up and time spent on them. I’m getting things in order, I’m researching, I am on it.

So why oh why then am I leaving one particular aspect to the last minute? Why am I putting it off and doing everything else first.

We all procrastinate right? I hate hoovering but when I do get the hoover out I’m always interested in what I am procrastinating or dreading doing more than the hoovering.

This is a bit different and I guess there’s an emotional edge to this I need to uncover. But before I tell you about me, what about you?

What is it you are not doing?

Are people telling you, you are good at something in particular but you keep putting it off or making excuses?

What is it you really want to do but aren’t? Maybe a new hobby, learning to run, starting a business.

It’s probably time to think about why you are putting it off and what the route cause is.

Have you read my first Blog – Do It Afraid. Great, read it again.

It’s time to sort ourselves out.

Stop limiting ourselves and get on doing the very thing we could be absolutely brilliant at if only we’d give ourselves half a chance.

When I was in my twenty somethings I spent 3 years in the USA training to be a Mime Artist under the two most gifted artists I have ever met. Their performances radiated through my being like nothing I’ve ever seen or probably will ever see again.

It was powerful.

When I started this particular blog I didn’t know what the answer was, I genuinely hoped that as I wrote to you honestly I would uncover something.

And there it is.

They were powerful.

Can I be that powerful?

I am reminded of this amazing quote that you might have heard if you’ve watched the film Coach Carter.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson.

I’ll tell you now what I’m meant to be doing. I’m meant to be choreographing a mime that I can perform to a group of ladies in a workshop I am running. I can run workshops standing on my head, I do it as part of my day job. But for some reason this FEAR has infiltrated into the workshop and as it stands I have a few exercises and nothing else. At the moment the workshop would be ok.

It needs to be brilliant.

I need to be brilliant

And you need to be brilliant.

It is in us we are holding it hostage because the potential we have in us overwhelms us.

Some of you are pftting me right now because you think you have no power.

Of course you do. Why on earth would you have no power? Prove your lack of power!

There is a lightbulb inside you waiting to be turned on.

Your job is to find the switch and turn it on.

How are you going to do that?

Email me at contact@nicolahughes.co.uk and claim your free life coaching session

Then keep connected with me at www.facebook.com/nicolahughescoaching and I’ll keep sharing my journey.

Lots of love to you as you figure it out.

Nicola x x

PS. The next day I sat down and wrote the workshop and mime in about an hour. I even practiced the mime. Sometimes we just need to acknowledge our stuff, give it a courtesy nod and then shift it out of the way. If I did it so can you!

I’m Gonna Win The Lottery….Come A Little Closer, I’ll Tell You How

Win, Win, WinI’m gonna win the Lottery – Come a little closer and I’ll tell you how.

Do you dream of winning the lottery and what you will do with the money?

Once you’ve paid off the mortgage, gone on the biggest holiday ever and bought a ridiculous amount of expensive bags, you dream of being this secret philanthropist (Took me ages to work out how to spell that and don’t even ask me to say it!). Blessing your community and friends without them knowing.

Okay, maybe the last bit’s just me.

But we all dream of life with huge amounts of money.

I love asking this question of people as I love hearing the unusual things people want to do or will do.

This weekend I bought my last lottery ticket. I didn’t win. I totally expect to win and I’m devastated when I don’t. Needless to say I’ve entered about 10 times in my whole life because it’s too traumatic!

My handsome hubby tells me that I have more chance of being bitten by a shark and dying from it, than winning the lottery! And he wonders why I hate swimming in the sea!

This aside I have full intention of winning the lottery – My Lottery!

And you can win too. You can win your lottery.

If I won the lottery (sorry I’m at it again I can’t help it I’m obsessed) I’d walk into this rich life I never lifted a finger for. Once I realised I had a dream that could become a reality I wanted that and not the lottery win. I want to build something.

You can look at all you have achieved and feel proud of yourself and your kingdom. You can do it. You will win.

I fully intend to pay off our mortgage, have dream holidays and much more.

So, tonight with your partner, or dog or whoever will believe you. Write down your lottery winning list.

Hunky hubster and I did our dream list one night.  Amongst other things, I wanted a house full of Ercol furniture and he wanted a fast car!!

Keep looking at your list and keep believing that you can do it.

Let it inspire you to shape a life for yourself that you will be proud of.

Stick with me and you’ll work out how soon enough, if you haven’t already.

Join the community of like minded women at: www.facebook.com/nicolahughescoaching and tell us what is on your Lottery List because we believe you will get it.

And to claim your free life coaching session email me at contact@nicolahughes.co.uk

Love Nicola x x

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