I Can Do It

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4 Simple words that can change your life….you just need to say it!

As you know I run. You probably also know I run for cake and general mental health and well-being.  Otherwise I’m not that fussed. Give me a choice and I’d rather sew.

But once in a while a friend makes me do a race. Last year it was the Bradford 10K.  I was running 10K regularly with a friend and I loved it.  Off we’d go, wave bye to the kids and escape real life for an hour. We’d talk about everything and come back feeling pumped.

I was not worried about this race.

However, I don’t really like races. I just like to run. I don’t want to stand around and get cold waiting for the gun to bang. But I was with a few other ladies and to be honest I felt the buzz a little.

Bang!

We were off.

And so were my nerves. They totally went. Something happened to me and it made every step feel like I was running though peanut butter, I could hardly move.

I think it was race anxiety.

I was not expecting it and it was horrendous.  As I ran round the corner about 5 minutes in I had to decide if I was running this race or not.  The further I ran the worse it would be to turn around and I knew I needed to either commit or stop.

I committed.

I am either incredibly stupid or totally amazing.

Initially I was so disappointed in myself that I couldn’t just run, I do this all the time, why couldn’t I do it now.  Then I realised I was doing it and it was HARD. I was doing it despite it being hard.

You may or may not run but I bet in life you’ve had some curve balls to deal with. Some surprises that have devastated you, rocked your boat and make you wonder what it’s all about.

Here is how you are going to get through it:

  1. Are you in or out? Make that decision now. You can’t win if you are undecided.
  2. Have a word with yourself. I chanted “I can do it” all the way round on my race. At one point I was so utterly frustrated that I screamed my head off. I felt I just had to let it out. (I did warn the other runners around me I was going to do this and they were fabulous. I think they found me quite entertaining).
  3. Get a team. I am part of a virtual running community called Run Mummy Run. They are amazing. I knew there were other women running races and were probably struggling. On occasion I also shouted “Run Mummy Run”. I felt united, I also felt very daft but desperate times called for desperate measures.
  4. Get a friend. My beautiful friend never left my side the whole run. I was hurting and I was embarrassed, but I wasn’t alone.
  5. Get some perspective. For me I was going to feel like this for about an hour. I can do an hour. Soon it would all be over. And the same goes for you. You won’t feel like this forever. Something always changes.

This is your personal race. No one else’s. You run it your way in your time. You get to choose how to clear the obstacles and what time you do it in.

You can do it

You can do it

You can do it

Lots of love

Nicola x x

Ps. Running a race and living your life is much easier when you have a Coach. I love working with women who want their life to be more fulfilled so please contact me if that’s you because I know I can help you win YOUR race.

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Get Outta The Way!

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When I was a teenager I remember one particular car journey with my mum. We were on some country lanes minding our own business when a driver appeared behind us obviously in a rush.

I presumed they were being idiots trying to wind us up or scare us.

My mum very calmly pulled over so the car could speed past.

I remember my speech; “Mum what are you doing? We were going the speed limit. They were being stupid. You should have stood your ground.”

I remember my mum’s response, “Maybe they had a call from the hospital and they need to get there quickly. You never know what’s going on for people.”

I judged

Mum showed compassion

I presumed they were bad

Mum saw potential goodness

I was ready to fight

Mum got out of the way.

My message to you is simple.

Sometimes you just need to get out of the way.

Is someone in your life doing your head in or causing you grief? Get out of the way

Are they stirring a situation and causing trouble? Get out of the way

It doesn’t matter who is right sometimes you just need to get out of the way.

Life can be really hard and fighting to prove a point is not always worth it. Look after your emotional and mental well being and enjoy YOUR journey.

Love to you all

Nicola x

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